What would you do differently?
“If you knew when you were going to die, what would you do differently?” This was the question posed to me by my friend and business partner Christine. I’ve calculated if I want to live a healthy happy life and maybe die at 93, (why 93, I have no idea!) then I have approximately 10,950 days left!
So the next question is, how am I living each day? Is it filled with joy and laughter, am I doing work I love, or am I allowing stress and upset to bring me down? Am I willing to allow that to happen, for the next week, year – when will I say enough? We all know people who say they hate their work, who can’t wait for 3 years, 5 years down the road when they retire, will they be happier then? What about the time they have wasted hating what they do? How are they going to change this habit they have been practicing of bein
g unsatisfied – will it just disappear?
The Happiness Advantage
Shawn Actor in his book, The Happiness Advantage (https://www.amazon.ca/Happiness-Advantage-Principles-Psychology-Performance/dp/0307591549) talks of happiness being a ‘state of mind’. He notes right at the beginning that our formula for happiness is broken, we have been brought up to believe ‘Success first, happiness second’. We’re waiting for something – to lose ten pounds, to get into the school I want, to retire – then we’ll be happy. But, ‘it’s backwards’, if we practice happiness, then good things will happen. How many of us are waiting for something to happen so that we will find happiness.
What if you knew exactly when your life is over?
Would you still wait for that certain thing to happen, or would you start living life, enjoying each day? It’s a funny thing breaking down the r
est of our life into days, for me 10,950 days seems so much shorter than 30 years. How amI going to spend those days, especially the last ones, do I want to remain healthy – what will I have to do to ensure good health?
But it’s my Genes
Huh huh, genes are no longer a valid excuse for bad health. We now hear that our genes only impact 20 – 30% of an individuals chance of living to 85. (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/genetic-factors-associated-with-increased-longevity-identified/ ). Part of my plan is to live healthily has been to change my diet, to look at how and how often I exercise, and also how I react to my environment. That is: how much time do I dwell on negativity – looking back at ‘what went wrong’ and ‘what ifs’? How much time do I spend worrying about the future, and what might happen, not good things always bad! Science has told us that our brain and body are interconnected, and our negative thoughts can impact our body, health too.
Don’t dwell on what you can’t change, nor what might happen in the future. Look at what you have and practice gratitude. A mantra from Reiki is something I practice each morning meditate or sit in silence for those who don’t wish to start a meditation practice
Just for today, I will not be angry
Just for today, I will not worry
Just for today, I will be grateful
Just for today, I will work honestly
Just for today I will treat every living being with kindness
Work out how many days you have left, then ask yourself the question, how am I going to live my life from here-on in, what do I want to change?
Let me know if this question resonates with you and what you might do differently below – as always, stay happy.