What role does fear play in your life?

Fear of: Not being brave, or of being timid; violence or being dismissed, ignored or laughed at.  Being seen as of little worth or not interesting to those you want to like you.  What about fear of being invisible or being alone, judged as a bad parent?  Or in your profession being considered lazy, unmotivated or too ambitious and pushy.  Do you fear change, maybe you dream of success but are afraid of what will happen if your dream comes true. Recognize yourself? Do you recognize yourself in any of the fears above?  How and where does fear play in your life?  [...]

By |2020-01-16T17:30:17-08:00January 16th, 2020|Balance, Change, Learning, Life - general, Self Improvement|Comments Off on What role does fear play in your life?

Are you planning or dreaming this New Year?

Happy New Year and Welcome 2020! If you are among the many of us that made resolutions this New Year, how are you feeling about them now, a few days into 2020? What are your resolutions and why are they important to you? Too many people declare that they are going to lose weight or get out of debt, yet forget to think about the plan they need to carry out these resolutions. A goal without a plan, is just a dream – now, I wish I came up with that! It is very true. Another cliche is if you fail to [...]

By |2020-01-07T15:53:19-08:00January 7th, 2020|Life - general, Self Improvement, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Are you planning or dreaming this New Year?

A different blog – thank you

This is a different blog to the one I was going to write.  I began to write about the rush to purchase gifts for all and sundry, purchases made because we need to, ‘it’s expected’.  Gifts purchased without much thought about who that person may be, what would they love, and what would really show how much you value them! Reflection Instead as I reflected, I realized this should be a piece about thanks – to everyone who has participated in my growth, and has given me a variety of experiences – good and bad.  All of which have added to where [...]

By |2019-12-17T16:00:26-08:00December 17th, 2019|Learning, Life - general, Self Improvement, Uncategorized|Comments Off on A different blog – thank you

Who are you on Social Media?

Recently I had the opportunity to meet a number of people I’ve only met and worked with online.  It was interesting.  If we think of people having different facets, on-line shows perhaps only 50 % of a person’s personality, like photographs it’s one sided. And so, when we meet in person, the conversation can be stilted, as we strive to be that same person that showed up on our social media account!  There are so many more facets of us, than the person on the screen. When we meet to chat on-line, we often only show a partial part of ourselves, so [...]

By |2019-11-14T17:24:56-08:00November 14th, 2019|Learning, Life - general, Self Improvement|Comments Off on Who are you on Social Media?

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Do you ever carry stories from childhood with you?  How many times have you listened to someone tell you something negative about yourself and then adopted it, and repeated it through that inner voice in your head…. 'You eat too much, you’re not pretty, you’re not very smart, or girls aren’t good a science', etc.. I can relate, I was the 'short/fat' one in my family, my brother called me ‘tubs’, or something similar, I remember objecting and being told it was a term of affection.  In my teens, my mother told me I was fat, and for many years kept suggesting [...]

By |2019-09-23T16:24:17-07:00September 23rd, 2019|Learning, Life - general, Self Improvement, Uncategorized|Comments Off on The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Talking about Death

Did I make you stop? Did my headline stop you in your tracks?  Death is a funny thing, it's inevitable.  And, as someone once said, we're not getting out of here alive, however many of us find it hard to talk about.  I don't have a problem talking about my own with my kids, they already say I'm weird, so this this is another example to add to their list, but to raise it in conversation with others hmmm, that's more difficult. Why now? Recently a number of I, and friends and colleagues have been touch by death, and the discussion has [...]

By |2019-08-27T16:20:54-07:00August 27th, 2019|Aging, Life - general, Retirement Planning, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Talking about Death

Pesky Habits – Tiny Changes

Small Changes A couple of weeks ago I posted a question on what small change can people make today to improve their health for tomorrow?  Not a major lifestyle changes like trying a new diet or embarking on yet another exercise plan, but rather one small change like eating an extra serving of vegetables at dinner, or standing up and walking around the desk for two minutes twice a day. 'Atomic Habits' James Clear in his book Atomic Habits suggests that making small changes can be effective in changing our habits.  He makes the argument for a two-minute rule, so “do thirty [...]

By |2019-08-07T13:19:15-07:00August 7th, 2019|Aging, Learning, Life - general|Comments Off on Pesky Habits – Tiny Changes

How well do you Listen?

  Listening & learning How well do you listen? Do you hear what others mean to say?  When I was staying with my sister earlier this year, I listened to her tell a story about our mother, and thought ‘who was that women she is talking about?’  It struck me how differently we all see and hear things.  My sister and I are a year apart, however we were quite different as kids, she loved sciences, I loved the arts.   We had the same parents, were brought up the same way, and yet how we received their messages and perhaps how they [...]

By |2019-07-12T15:15:43-07:00July 12th, 2019|Balance, Learning, Life - general|Comments Off on How well do you Listen?

Getting out of my Comfort Zone

How often do you try something new?  Me, not often enough and that is why over the next 12 months I’m going to do something new each month, something that pulls me out of my comfort zone.  I believe it’s good for me to try new things or go to different places.  Things that pull me out of that comfort zone that keeps me stuck, without realizing, or realizing but ignoring it!  I think it helps me grow, and in growing I am more compassionate, more empathetic to others and a much better support to those I serve. And, in putting it [...]

By |2019-06-24T15:47:28-07:00June 24th, 2019|Learning, Life - general, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Getting out of my Comfort Zone

If you knew when you were to die, what would you do differently?

What would you do differently? "If you knew when you were going to die, what would you do differently?"  This was the question posed to me by my friend and business partner Christine.  I've calculated if I want to live a healthy happy life and maybe die at 93, (why 93, I have no idea!) then I have approximately 10,950 days left! Next Question So the next question is, how am I living each day?  Is it filled with joy and laughter, am I doing work I love, or am I allowing stress and upset to bring me down?  Am I willing [...]

By |2019-06-06T19:32:59-07:00June 6th, 2019|Aging, Learning, Life - general|Comments Off on If you knew when you were to die, what would you do differently?